Primary Motivations
Building Transparent Connections
The Problem: I've come to realize that the majority of failed relationships (personal, business, etc.) experience a breakdown when the communication on one side or another becomes guarded or uncollaborative. There could be any number of reasons why the guards go up or a person stops being helpful in finding resolution, but the core issue is that people have stopped being vulnerable or transparent in what they would like to achieve.
The Critical Elements: People NEED other people to have happy, fulfilling lives. People NEED quality work environments, quality friend groups, and quality connections in their romantic/intimate partners. This is not a guess. This is backed up by study after study demonstrating the NEED for human interaction.
- Connection is good for physical and mental health: Study Here
- Connection is necessary for recovery from illness: Study Here
- Connection is necessary to survive serious illness: Study Here
- Connection is necessary to prevent loneliness: Study Here
- Connection is necessary... for so many other, studied and proven reasons.
The *quality* connection is entirely dependent on both/all parties involved exposing their vulnerabilities and their goals enough for others to connect from a vulnerable or purposeful perspective.
Methods to Achieve Quality Connections
In the business sense, this is necessary to create workplaces that people are genuinely healthy and enriching to interact in.
Let's take, for example, an article from WorkTies.Org, that answers the question "What Questions Work for You in Building High Quality Connections"?
Methods to Achieve Quality Connections
In the business sense, this is necessary to create workplaces that people are genuinely healthy and enriching to interact in.
Let's take, for example, an article from WorkTies.Org, that answers the question "What Questions Work for You in Building High Quality Connections"?
The image and article outlines some starting point questions that will be helpful in learning about others in the workplace, but a key point of this is being able to keep the banter going AND being willing to answer the same questions. These are not intended to be one-sided, but a starting point to create connections. Both parties need to be engaged in the connection and work to maintain it.
This cannot be some parlor trick or superficial effort to manipulate people. The integrity we have will be recognized, respected, and reciprocated if we are vulnerable enough to share a similar amount we ask of others.
This cannot be some parlor trick or superficial effort to manipulate people. The integrity we have will be recognized, respected, and reciprocated if we are vulnerable enough to share a similar amount we ask of others.
Being Honest with Ourselves About Intention is also a critical element of being able to have the conversations necessary to build connection.
WellandGood.com discusses this in the context of being "open" or "vulnerable". Open being more of a proclamation of self or being in a mindset that is receptive to hearing other people's proclamation. On the other hand, vulnerability is an exposure of something we may not be comfortable proclaiming yet.
The 4 Key Signs WellandGood discuss, that differentiate open from vulnerable, are critical to recognize about yourself and others in real time. Doing so will ensure you are respecting the information they are sharing with you.
Often, in vulnerable spaces, we may bring up topics we may not have sat with in introspective contemplation yet. It's necessary to understand whether we are being open or vulnerable, and to hear when others are being open or vulnerable.
WellandGood.com discusses this in the context of being "open" or "vulnerable". Open being more of a proclamation of self or being in a mindset that is receptive to hearing other people's proclamation. On the other hand, vulnerability is an exposure of something we may not be comfortable proclaiming yet.
The 4 Key Signs WellandGood discuss, that differentiate open from vulnerable, are critical to recognize about yourself and others in real time. Doing so will ensure you are respecting the information they are sharing with you.
Often, in vulnerable spaces, we may bring up topics we may not have sat with in introspective contemplation yet. It's necessary to understand whether we are being open or vulnerable, and to hear when others are being open or vulnerable.
A "last but not least" Concern
Investing time in others who are not interested in a reciprocation of that time and effort is always a concern. Trying your best is all you can do, and if it doesn't work then it's time to invest in others who share the same value for quality connections.
Investing time in others who are not interested in a reciprocation of that time and effort is always a concern. Trying your best is all you can do, and if it doesn't work then it's time to invest in others who share the same value for quality connections.